|Posted by firstname.lastname@example.org on March 24, 2014 at 8:05 PM|
Picture the typical youth sports game—a blur of motion and sound. Some parents are busy cheering or just chatting among themselves, enjoying the day. Others are prowling the sidelines. The prowlers mean business. These parents become field generals, barking orders and commanding their children to excel.
In this world of high volume and hyperventilating, one parent stands out. You can hear him from the parking lot. “Mark your man!” he screams to his little boy. Red-faced and nearly breathless, this father runs up and down the sidelines, keeping pace with every play. “Get to the ball,” he growls. The louder he screams, the more he seems to expect from his son. Just then, an opposing player steals the ball from his son, dribbles around him and heads straight toward the goal. Score!
He is the reason his wife doesn’t enjoy going to the games anymore. This is too often the case in youth sports. More dramatic and disturbing examples of how far adults stray from their proper roles in youth sports occur every day—from assaults on coaches and officials to brawls among parents.
There is a disconnect between what adults say and what children need to hear. What adults want and need from youth sports is often not what children want and need.
Today, more than 35 million children ages 4 through 14 participate in some form of organized youth sports. The vast majority of programs are staffed by very well-meaning volunteers. Yet more than 70 percent of kids drop out of organized youth sports by age 13—missing opportunities for socialization, character development, exercise and fun. While kids do migrate to other activities as they get older, the number one reason children drop out is pressure from adults, and no longer finding their sports experiences fun. Kids need exercise, and the fun and values participation in sports brings. The high drop-out rate only contributes to America’s problems with childhood obesity.
The solution to these problems is not for children to figure out how to meet adult expectations. Rather it’s for the adults to look at youth sports through the eyes of the children, and to serve their wants and needs while they are being children at play. This will require not only a change in adult attitudes, but changes in the very sports systems themselves. I don’t offer this guidance lightly or without the credentials to back it up. I was a first-round draft pick and played in the National Basketball Association for four years, toe-to-toe and elbow-to-elbow with the stars of the game. Before that, I played basketball at an Ivy League college, in high school and in the driveways of my hometown, where children of my generation got the best education in sports there is: from each other.
Today I’m a lecturer, an occasional professional scout, a youth sports coach and an administrator. I’m the father of two sons who have played youth sports since first grade. These days I travel the country talking to parents, coaches and other youth sports administrators about what is wrong and how to give youth sports back to our children. I also take what I have learned from the best people in physical education, sports science and child psychology. I apply their work to what is happening in the gyms and on the playing fields all over America. I travel to wherever schools and sports organizations can find a room. I look parents and coaches right in the eye and tell them much of what they are doing is wrong.
Not only can the youth sports systems controlling our children’s lives ruin their fun, but also they often deny individual children fair opportunities to reach their full potential through excessive use of elite teams. With the cruelest irony, these systems can rob us of young athletes who, had they been given a fair chance as children, might have been terrific players as high school seniors or as adults.
Adults are focused far too much on winning at the expense of meeting children’s needs. Most children are simply concerned with playing and having fun.
The Need for Real Change
There are frankly way too many serious youth sports issues that have been well documented in the major media over the past 10 to 15 years. These include recent articles in Time, Newsweek, U.S. News & World Report, The New York Times, research publications by many organizations such as National Alliance for Youth Sports (NAYS), and books including Just Let the Kids Play (which I coauthored with Tom Moroney and Linda Hall) and Dr. Bruce Svare’s Reforming Sports: Before the Clock Runs Out. Some of the more serious issues include:
The vast majority of today’s efforts to improve youth sports involve educating parents, coaches and administrators, with the hope that education will change behavior. While of value, I believe changes must be made to the very way youth programs are structured—that is, by changing the very play models.
This conclusion is based on the continued proliferation of problems in the face of more than 20 years’ worth of education and training programs, my review of numerous studies conducted by key youth sports researchers, and pilot programs that I have been involved with. These all provide very insightful perspectives on why parents and coaches become over-involved in youth sports and what the real solutions must be.
I truly believe that changing the way youth sports programs are structured will minimize adults’ underlying emotions, and much of the resulting over-involvement will disappear. In addition, the kids will learn better skills and have more fun!
Samford Chiropractic Centre